You do have a plan B. Its "You". Choose you, learn to love and respect yourself and you will stop letting others disrespect you including your W.
Stay strong and enjoy Japan. Or you going to Tokyo or some other city?
You need to take yourself away as an option. And let go. Let your wife know what it's like not to have you as an option. No more walks and shopping together. Can you work somewhere else?
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.