She is working on getting money saved to file, her words... She has just finished paying a lawyer for citizenship filing. She is currently not a citizen just a legal resident. Could she have married me for citizenship, there is that chance, but she has been with me for 9 1/2 years, which 4 1/2 was SAHM. i think she was hoping i would change with the weight. She has always been caring about other people and I think that leads her to make questionable friends and to be very trusting of people who might not deserve it. She has been on her own since she was 17 and she never did quite like how close I was to my family, i.e. visiting parents and brothers on the weekends, but my family has always been close.
I dont think she was narcissistic or selfish, but i could be looking at things from rose colored glasses. She just says she has changed and doesnt love me any more. I feel you cant control who you fall in love with, but you can control if you want to stay in love. I do feel i left an open spot for someone to take my place when i wasnt meeting her love language. Instead of just listening i was the typical guy and tried to fix. i lost my job in 2014 and we moved in with my parents which caused a lot of issues in our relationship, but we had always worked through them, or atleast i thought we did, but she was just pleasing. I did eventually find work and then she went to work about a year later and we were working on saving to get a house when she BD. I tried to explain to her that she wasnt divorcing me she was divorcing the family, since i have a relationship with our d5, she also has this relationship, we also have to have a relationship because of our d5, the only relationship that was being broken was the one between my wife, our daughter, and myself. That relationship would no longer be there. anyways orry to ramble, ill cut it off at that.
M:43 W:33 M:10 T:11 D:6 BD 8/12/17 Divorce Final 1/23/2019
