As for your W, don't believe the b.s. she told you about the OM. She gave the most typical lie that wayward wives give. She actually left you b/c of this OM, with whom she was having some type of an affair. That's why he just suddenly and conveniently appears on the scene.
I Believe you are right, whats funny is about two weeks before the BD she told me she found out he was going through a divorce. And he is a big flirt at their work, so I feel her thoughts were that she had to move fast before someone else did. In his divorce which i know about from her, his wife left him for another man. I dont see how any good man would do this to another person after going through the same thing themselves. So I just think he is scum. Also dont know if he reads this board or not. I also got the ILYBIANILWYA speech. He is an older man probably mid 50's and I know she is lying because her story is always changing with him, which has driven me nuts, so I just quit asking. I found out she had been with him after the BD when she wanted me to find something and I asked if I could look through her purse which she replied yes, and then in one of the small pockets was used lingerie. Which i confronted her with and asked her why she cheated and she replied she didnt cheat, because she had already told me she wanted a divorce. In my eyes we are still married since she hasnt filed yet. In her eyes we are not, so i guess its just a point of view. In her eyes divorce is just a paper to sign and in her mind she has already signed it. I love her but I have lost all trust in her. The only one really losing in this situation is our D5. she wont be able to do things we had planned for her because money will be tight for a while. Would i take my wife back, ofcourse i would, but things would have to change. I dont want the relationship we had, because that obviously didnt work out. My wife has stated she doesnt want to come back, because she is afraid that i would now leave her, but I am sure that is just a lie to try to please me. I have talked to a lawyer and they said to file as soon as i can because the courts in dallas are backed up, and i need to get it done before the 10 year mark or i will have to pay spousal support. My wife said she doesnt want spousal support, but her mind could change at any moment. As for the BD its a great weight loss program lol. I have already lost 40#'s can could lose about 140 more. So I am a big guy, but I was like that when we got married.
M:43 W:33 M:10 T:11 D:6 BD 8/12/17 Divorce Final 1/23/2019
