Awkward Situation Got Much Worse (part 4 )

[sandi2]

Yes, my W feels awkward at gatherings now...that is why she is so uncomfortable eith the trips to visit my family

That's not at all the way it sounded when she was breaking her neck to go to the birthday party, and told you she was going whether you did or not. And now, she wants to take two separate cars to go on an 8 hr trip to the same location.

See, the thing is that my W has always done more with my family than her own...no pun intended.

So what? She scr@wed up!

Aside from her mom, her family is not that into visitors, outings, even holidays. As an example, her sisters will not even drive 2 hours to be together for Thanksgiving.

So what? She still scr@wed up!

Losing events with my family is most of my wifes trips to visit relatives.

So what? She scr@wed up! She thought nothing would change and she could continue her affair and nothing would change.

Now, if my family starts uninviting my W, should I stop visiting her family?

Well, you haven't been in an affair with any of her family......so why would you stop (unless you separate). I wouldn't worry about this right now. You just said they aren't too keen about having visitors. Currently, none of this stuff you've written in the previous post should be your primary concern today. Frankly, it sounds as if you are trying to talk your way into doing nothing.

I think the affair partners will be watching to see how you deal with them being together for the family Thanksgiving celebration. Mostly your W will be watching, b/c BIL feels pretty safe with your sister, since he smoothed everything over with her.