Why are you asking her about working on 'us'? There is no 'us'. There is no marriage. There is only 'you' and 'her'. let her go man.
What are you doing for yourself? You say you're at the end of DBing, but I don't know if I've seen serious DBing from you. You're still pursuing her from the last interaction. You're not content because you're not dropping the rope, starting to detach, and what is the news with GAL?
You don't need to 'move on' from her but you need to 'move forward'. You don't need to decide whether you're going to D or not right now.
You're far from content as you said. How can you change that? and that doesn't include W in the picture.
I am sorry if I am being abrasive, but your posts sound defeatist and fatalistic. Take back the control over your life and 'move forward'. Her moving out should make this even better as now you she's not in your face.
You said you fired your therapist because they weren't helping you grow. It sounds like you wanted your therapist to tell you what you wanted to hear about saving the MR. Not saying that your therapist is any good or not, but you're delegating your responsibilities to someone else. The therapist and IC are important tools, but they're not going to change things around for your completely - you have to do that.
You're not done DBing because you've not even truly started it. How about starting it today.
