She visited once (last week) and told me how much she misses the cats, the house and everything we had. After that comment I asked her if she had given any thought to working on us. Her response was an ultimatum. "If you don't stop pressuring me, I'll choose to leave you for good and I know that's not what you want." I'm not sure how she expected me to take that but I interpreted it as she has no desire to return and she is just using it as some kind of bait.
I don't know how a person knows when they are done DBing but I am there. I just don't have any fight left. I no longer want the type of person who gives ultimatums in my life. So what if my beliefs prevent me from moving on. So what if she takes half of everything and I end up working until I die. I just simply can't do this anymore.
In other news I fired my therapist after months of him not really helping me grow. In our last session, he told me that he was happy that I'm moving on and am content with my life. I'm far from content and suck at this moving on thing too. Glad he was there to sit back and watch my life unfold but I need a coach, I can talk into a voice recorder.
BD: 5/28/17 "We're like roommates, there is no passion anymore" Early October she is moving out so she can "think about what she really wants in life" 10/22/17 She's gone
