Originally Posted By: peacetoday
I felt the same..could not understand how xh could move on so fast
our M also was troubled, but I was still shocked
he was a totally sober man, a dedicated dad and financially successful

fast forward about 10 years xh divorced the OW
last I heard he was miserable and addicted to drugs/alcohol

they will feel the pain of all that they choose and lost but not till later
they will run in replay as long s they can until the OW and all the addictions don't work to create euphoria
we feel the loss now..its better to be in your shoes than his

use this time to clean your own house and let things happen
we cant control them

you will wake up in a better place



This is exactly what I need to hear this morning. It is better to be in my shoes than his, and I will work on getting my own life and mental health together. Thank you Peace!


DB August 6, 2017 after 3 month separation
Me: 54
H: 58
Two Teenage sons
Living Separately from H
Married 19 years, together 22 years
Not sure if this is an MLC or WAS