Husband gone for second time - new here

[Caz49]

To go what you're going through and be ill and have a H that doesn't seem engaged with your D must be truly hard. I think you're coping brilliantly and sound very strong Nicole!

It's so hard to watch our children be disregarded and for your H not to see her how you see her is frustrating and painful. I fought for years for my H to engage more with my children...he loves them no doubt about that...but I can't make him have a meaningful conversation with them when it just isn't in him. It's sad, they see it, they know he can't do it and they now make allowances for him. I mean wow!

But don't waste time trying to get him to be a better dad right now. It's all wasted effort that you need to get your health better.

I was going to suggest yoga or meditation or both! Yoga is excellent for digestive problems. And it can be as gentle as you need it to be. I would recommend going to a class with a trained instructor as you'll need to take it easy but the benefits would be huge. Maybe look into homeopathy, that could be a great GAL activity.

I understand completely about the postponement of your dreams...but you can make new ones in the meantime. Then when you feel better start a mood board and plan your bigger dreams.

The house situation stinks, totally unfair and would eat at me too. Stress isn't good for you right now, so start detaching from all of the things that get you riled, and put the house resentment behind you. Make this home cosier, nicer and try not to picture your H in the other house. Think how you can maybe make this situation better.

Are there any hobbies you can look into starting that you've always wanted to do...learn a new language? Knitting, crochet? Art? You may even be able to start a new business if you learn a new craft...