How to end the fighting.....

[Caz49]

So glad Sandi stepped in, she's put it in a nutshell.

What concerns me is what you've said about your D's. Have they picked up on how your W treats you and are now following suit? I think you need to make a stand against the unreasonable behaviour of your W (in a calm, measured way) to show your children it's not on to treat anyone that way.

As to Thanksgiving...make dinner, enjoy the day WITH your children. I personally wouldn't invite the in-laws if you're going to be uncomfortable, but if you enjoy their company invite them, STAY and enjoy the day. W can lump it or leave it.