Husband gone for second time - new here

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"I'm active in a new church, made a lot of new friends in this city who I see on a regular basis, seeing a counselor and a psychologist, and I'm volunteering for several organizations and maintain contact with my career network, among other things. But to me this isn't sufficient. "

Hi Nicole, the above sounds like great progress to me - good for you - particularly given the challenges you are facing at the moment. I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis - though at the same time, a diagnosis does mean you can move forward with treatment and look forward to feeling better soon hopefully.

I'm interested in your comments about what you want above. You'd like to be with your husband again - but from other things that you post - he checked out years ago, isn't interested in parenting and works 72 hour weeks. What would you be hoping would change for you about how the relationship was. What are your non-negotiables if he were interested in reconciling and rebuilding?

I understand what you post about your 'former' life and your 'current' life - I felt the same way - wow things were never meant to unfold like this!! This isn't the program I signed up for!! But actually, some rich and hard earned lessons and growth are there for all of us at times like these if we choose to take them. I look back now and see there were things I needed to learn and I don't regret the journey now.

Take care and keep posting. GLad that Maika is chiming in with some great advice too.

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