My H and I started reading SSM together, but we don't really feel like it's speaking to us a whole lot. All of the sits in the book deal with older people or with people who have kids. Neither of those apply to us. The only things I really learned from the book are that a) my SD didn't just disappear, I need a little boost to get it going, and b) sometimes my H probably feels way different that what I think he does. I'm glad I read as far as I did, because I found this place. Everyone here (ESP you HD guys!) has helped me realize that my actions (or lack thereof) really influence his actions. You've helped me understand that it isn't always just about sex. When my H and I go for long periods of time (2 weeks+) without HS or ML, I feel so incredibly distant from him; I start to treat him pretty badly, avoiding him and getting very upset over nothing. I now understand that while it may take me that long to have those feelings, it may take him only a few days.
However...I was so ready to learn from SSM when I bought it; I was excited to start working on getting my SD back. But now that I've read it, I really don't feel like it was really worth it. (Other than, of course, finding this site and all you wonderful people! ) So I'm wondering...will PM hold anything useful for me and my H? You guys are the ones who encouraged me to just tell him that I need more ML than HS. (That conversation is worth its own thread!) So will PM help us in anyway? Now that we understand each other's needs...what can we gain from PM?
) So I'm wondering...will PM hold anything useful for me and my H? You guys are the ones who encouraged me to just tell him that I need more ML than HS. (That conversation is worth its own thread!) So will PM help us in anyway? Now that we understand each other's needs...what can we gain from PM?
