To be honest I am really torn about this. On one hand I want my own life back with the children. I make more than enough money to support the children and pay childcare. So really don't need her to help raise the kids or her brother.
On the other hand I love her and would love nothing more than to fix it. So the fighting has gone on so long just getting to that point I don't care anymore.
I think in some ways she is telling me stop being a jerk. Rather than out and saying it she is acting out which has occurred to me. She does an awful lot to reassure me that she is not cheating again.
