WW in EA, NC w/OM(?), W's BFF interfering, part 7

[hoosjim]

That's the problem with snooping, it just drives them ever-deeper under cover!

And if she's under-cover, she is like super duper under cover. I put the surveillance back up on her car for a couple of days, but nothing... so, if she is using her phone on some kind of alternate calling protocol, she is not doing it in her car. And doubtful she could be calling him from work-- while there is one good friend of hers there that I know covered for her one time when she left early to meet OM several months back, her coworkers, and especially her superiors are, for the most part, also friends of mine whom I doubt she would be willing to carry on conversations with OM at the risk of being caught. (OTOH, she hasn't been wearing her rings for months, and I know from her telling me that this has not gone unnoticed over there.)

But I really doubt she is doing anything. I have gotten ahold of her phone a couple of times (she is no longer "guarding" it and fairly regularly leaves it lying around)and there are not surreptitious apps or records of such apps being installed on it. And she is not at all tech-savvy and in the past has always been fairly sloppy, so I can't imagine she is doing anything on that phone. And she honestly just doesn't have the opportunity time-wise. I had some concerns/suspicions about her being at work late on a fairly regular basis the past few weeks, but conversations with the folks in her office (I am actually a patient over there now due to my injury) confirm that they are all in fact pretty much working these terrible hours due to trying to implement a new records keeping and patient management system.

So, my belief is that while she is still "in mourning" and in the process of "getting over" the A/OM, she is not actually doing anything to contact him or carry on a relationship. Can't guarantee he hasn't tried to contact her, of course, but, short of kicking his ass, not sure what I could do about that.