I also think it is good that she took on extra work. I’m not putting too much energy into thinking about these things but do notice them. Anymore a lot of the time they are just passing thoughts. I think she was looking for praise.
It’s been a little while so I thought I would update. More of the same going on for the most part and xw has been friendly. I was out of town last week and the night I got back xw texts me saying she had a dream I was trying to take her custody away and asked if I was planning on doing that. I told her not to worry that I would never do that to her. She replied thanks and told me how it was bothering her and she could t sleep. Then she asked if I thought she would be okay to drive her car to a gas station in the morning because the message screen said refuel now! I told her I didn’t know. I waited while (for her to ask) then asked if she wanted me to bring her some gas. She said no she would be fine. Early the next morning she texted and asked me to. She said she had a dream she ran out of gas. I was relieved to do this, not good, especially with the kids in the car. When I was there she told me how she was t sleeping and having bad dreams. I reassured her I was t planning on trying to take her custody away and told her again I would never do that to her or the kids. She seemed relieved. Idk if she realizes her nightmare is what she did to me! She was also keen to show me her new dishwasher and that the dryer I went to meet the truck for was working. It was a little weird she was showing me this stuff but I just told her I was glad it was all fixed and she didn’t have to wash dishes anymore. I know she hated it from her childhood.
I also got ccd on an email between attorneys and it looks like xw is going to be held in contempt of court for or paying the guardian attorney. I’m sure this is multiplying her stress exponentially. I tried to research this but was t sure what actions the court takes. I know it’s not my circus but I do worry for her and I’d hate for my kids to see her get served etc. I never said anything to her about it. My attorney also asked to be taken off the ccs since it doesn’t involve me.
My S had his 9th bday a couple weeks ago. Xw came over on his bday and we had dinner, cake, and presents. It was a nice night for us. We also had a party for his friends yesterday. Xw had mentioned just having a get together with a couple of his friends and no presents, etc. so I had to put something together without making her feel bad. Not too many little kid parties left and don’t want him to miss out and he had been talking to me about his bday for a couple months. We did a party at a gymnastics place and the kids had a blast. Xw wouldn’t let me help w/cake or decorations but it worked out well.
Xw gave me the kids over the weekend since they are going w/her for Thanksgiving. I’m going to miss them but will have them at Christmas. I’m going to go see my family for a day or two but no big plans. I’ve been doing well overall but my boss has been awful the last month so I’m sure looking forward to a few extra days off work.
Hope everyone celebrating has a great Thanksgiving!
