I'm glad everyone is responding so well to my question! I really think that understanding your own response is important, but understanding your SO's response is maybe a little more important. For instance, while my H and I may be having frequesnt sex, we may not be ML often enough for me to feel satisfied. Which actually kinda feeds back into the whole MB thing...if I feel we're only HS, then I feel it is an itch for him. Hmm...

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Regarding your other problems, what do you mean it was only sex? Are you saying that his technique was really really bad?



LOL, goodness no! Sorry if I wasn't quite clear on that. And I guess since it was my question, I should answer it.

I would define HS as being just physical. Any quickies, any 'animal sex', anything that doesn't involve foreplay, just an 'i'm horny' and away we go. (Which, BTW, never comes from me.) It's more of a physical release than a time to bond together as a couple.

I would define ML as a more emotional act. I would agree that you don't neccessarily have to have intercourse in order to ML. But for me...it helps alot. ML for me includes foreplay, kissing, touching, petting my hair, rubbing, massaging, an emotional connection. ML doesn't have to be slow and sensual; it just needs to be about us together instead of just about physical pleasure.

Sometimes both partners may have different views. So, again, I think it's very important to understand the different views you and your partner may have.

Yes, I agree, both are vital to a M. I can't imagine how my H would feel if I absolutely refused to just HS. Being the LD spouse, I don't ever seem to need the physical release that he does. But part of a M is to give of yourself to your partner, and to do so in a loving way. Besides, I like knowing that sometimes I just turn him on so much that he can't stand it!

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Hope I was more clear this time!