I don't like how you have been treating me. Against common belief I am not a door mat. I don't do things because I am told too. We spend a lot of time talking about why you are unhappy. Which is okay I am more than happy to listen when you are being genuine, honest and open.
Thing is it feels like you expect me to accept one word vague answers. I am not a mind reader. I don't know how or what you are feeling unless you tell me. I do ask questions that you refuse to answer. That in asking questions I must be accusing you, calling you a liar or the answer isn't good enough. It is infuriating to ask a question in order to understand and suddenly be the bad guy.
Just because you are angry you don't get to tell me what trash I am or how it is my fault your life [censored]. Guess what you were there and had more than equal part in the decisions that got us here. Unless you are perfect and never say things you don't mean when angry. Show a hair of empathy when I apologize. Also food for thought, try it some time you would be amazed at how it helps.
On the I need to stay and take of the kids while you are deployed than leave when you get back. That some how it is my responsibility to provide financially for you is amazingly naivete, delusional, or selfish. This ongoing belief that because you want a divorce, you are some how entitled to treat me as you please and that I am supposed to take it. It is just flabbergasting to the point of inanity.
Dont send this. I know your intent, but it's written from a place of weakness so it comes off ineffective.
You say "you dont get to treat me like trash." You say that you are "not a doormat". But she has. And you have been. For years. And youve done nothing about it. So why should it change now? What are you going to do differently? What are you doing to SHOW her that it's unacceptable to behave in that fashion?
Furthermore, putting blame on her or reminding her of "her part" isnt going to do you any favors either. What is your GOAL in sending such a letter?
