It's almost like having to drag the information out of them is harder to deal with than the affair. Why they just can't come clean I'll never know...and then the rug sweeping is another thing they do.
Believe me rug sweeping is just the pits and never works. Everything needs to be dealt with before you can put it all behind you, some of them just don't get it!
It's taken me a few weeks of therapy to help me see this. Even though I knew it I needed to hear it from someone else. She's helped me see a lot of things clearly.
You have a lot to work your way through. I wish you strength to do so. Forgive me, I have read your thread but not all. Do you see an IC?
No I have been seeing an hypno-therapist. Find it more helpful than venting about the problems. I am a thinker so unless my therapist can convince me it will work it causes issues. So opted for non-traditional therapy that is focused on results not the cause.
