Clyde, your earlier incidences with your W and her sister, were those old or recent? Your W sounds very immature in those instances and certainly your responses do not come off as controlling, but rather just those of a concerned spouse. I'm not saying you weren't controlling in the M in other ways, but not in those cases.
Originally Posted By: Clyde
So I am trying hard not to get my hopes up, but it does seem as though there is a change in tides happening.
I think you need to temper your expectations. Positive signs are good, but they are not an indication that she has changed her mind regarding the M. DON'T ASK, but I bet if you did she would tell you she's still done and wants out of the M. A lot of times WAS's will start out being mean and angry, they do this because it's their way of trying to get the LBS to be "done" with the M too. But if the LBS starts DB'ing then the WAS feels the pressure has been removed and there is no need to be mean anymore. That's likely all that's going on right now. A turnaround on her part is still many months away. My XW even wanted to start having sex again, but she was still "done".
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I was thinking, does this give me the green light to recommend/give her books on MR?
No, absolutely not! You've done well at removing the pressure, you don't want to start applying it all over again or the whole process starts over.
