I get what your saying. But S14 was engaging in the same behavior as the everyone in W family. Stick your head in the sand and ignore. Which is why they have generational dysfunction. S14 is well aware of his grandmother and great grandmother behavior. Figured it out by the time he was 8 years old. I am tired of of my W leaving this all up to me and shrugging it off.
Was I angry? You damn right I am. As for the road home paved and smooth. At this point I don't give a damn. If she comes crawling back one day, then we'll see how I feel about it at that time. But at this point, a woman willing to drop her family for whatever penis is waving in her face at the time isn't worth fighting for. W mother did this type if stuff ober her own children, so she knows first hand how this story turns out.
I work with dysfunctional families on a daily basis. And I refuse to be a part of one that exhibits the same destructive behavior. From this point I won't be so forward with S14. But he needed to know of the ramifications of this divorce and consequences of it. He was shrugging it off like it was going to be no big deal. And I needed hom to know how serious this was. W has S14 thinking that cheating isn't really that bad. That is my MIL line of thinking, which I won't allow to become my sons.
