The last time I spoke with Jeff, a long time ago, he posted this on my thread. I didn't absorb it then, but eventually, I came to understand.
------------------------------------------------------------ J3B: When I had to go, we had just talked about 'being the victim', and how I couldn't identify with the type of person who constantly used that.
I think that had a lot to do with helping me in this process.
When I realized that I was making myself the victim...whenever I talked with friends it was always about her and what she was doing and OM, and how could she and all the 'whys?'.
I realized that I was that type of person I couldn't understand, didn't want to, more importantly I didn't want to be.
"When you stare too long into the abyss..."
"When you fight monsters..."
While she was turning our history around to suit her poor choices and blaming me...
I was blaming her for my current unhappiness.
And exactly who is in control of how I feel?
The day I stopped being a victim, was the day I was was almost through it all.
