I'm not sure what you're asking. Can you clarify? She assumes I'm angry (and I hate her) because I don't talk to her and seem to be avoiding her. I am still angry, but I don't hate her any more. Are you saying I should act as if I'm not angry, and try to also resolve my anger?
Yes, what would it take for you to resolve your anger? Why are you angry? I don't think there is OM is there? I know she has not been the most pleasant person to deal with but can you get to the point to when she starts mouthing off you don't let it effect you? Do you feel as though you have lovingly detached without making it look like you hate her and are pissed?
Again I am not trying to be critical so please H don't take it that way H. I didn't have to go through in-house SEP so I have not walked in your shoes. I jumped in because you wanted feedback on the text exchange you had last week with her. Can you get to a point to where you take the higher ground and don't let her suck you in emtionally?
I know its easier said than done I just think something has to break the cycle if you guys have a chance to recon. Especailly since you are living under the same roof and kids are involved. If you took the lead and worked on breaking the cycle could your sitch become more peaceful?
