Husband gone for second time - new here

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"It's already been years since my husband started having affairs and stopped making an effort to work towards the marriage. Sometimes I feel that I'm wasting time by waiting to hear from him because there's very little incentive on his part to change the current situation. He's now free and living on his own while he still has us living nearby 'waiting' for him to figure out what he wants."

Have a look at the blue section above Nicole. Therein lies the problem IMHO. Now he will do what he will do, but whether you sit and 'wait' for him to call or 'wait' for him to decide is up to you.

Actually, I would focus on regaining your health and rebuilding your own life just now and put him firmly on the back burner. That would be good for you and the dynamic above may change to - He's single and living alone - he can also see you moving forward without him - that unsettles him etc..

Do you have a clear treatment plan now Nicole? I hope you'll start to feel much better soon. Xx