I am an LD girl M to my HDH. Any time I discover that he has 'taken care of himself', I am absolutely crushed. Especially on those occassions where he has made no effort to involve me. I suppose part of that is my fault; it is a learned action that I have taught him. After being rejected so many times...that's what happens. And here comes the vicious circle...I reject him, he 'takes care of himself', I find out, I feel ugly and 'not good enough', I want less to do with him sexually, and so on and so forth. Going solo really does give the impression that it IS just about scratching that itch, it IS totally physical. It does make me feel as if I'm just there to make it more enjoyable for him; like I'm a piece of meat. So...IMHO, don't let her know - it will only make things worse. It's kind of like saying, 'I want it but I'm not willing to put the effort into helping you want it, too, so how do you like that.' Or maybe I'm just bitter and you shouldn't pay any attention to me.
><> If I was a piece of meat...I would be a juicy steak.
