What to Do? 5

[chris19]

Yea, that was a bit harsh; ha. But I can laugh it off...

So ever since the BD, I have been trying to figure this whole situation out for myself. I read so much stuff, thought about it night and day, etc...and I landed on this board. I have read so much work that people have put into their our sitch'es using the BD methods; and the science/theories behind it sound very smart and logical. The most I will take from all these techniques is the actual divorcing remedies... The ideas of the cheese less tunnels, the "act as ifs"; basically all the theories behind how to make the marriage thrive. And for the most part I would think each and every IC/MC would consider those techniques to be very healthy for a M.

The hard part about the DB techniques is the NC/DARK/DETACH; which is were my IC/MC disagrees with. It is hard to wrap my head around the two very different view points when dealing with the same situation.