Chris...I have struggled at times with this as well. Do I reach out, should I send her a card, write a letter, etc. It sounds good when I think about it but then I fall back on bomb drop, her moving out, her still not making an effort at recon, her not doing a lot of things. That makes me halt in my tracks.
She has no problem moving out, telling me she doesn't love me, telling me she is not attracted to me, telling me she is bored but now she has a problem telling me she loves me again and wants to recon? I don't buy it.
I wouldn't do anything. My W doesn't have a confirmed OM and I am not doing anything. Your W has a confirmed OM and you are going to pour your heart out for what reason?
IMO it makes you look weak......it indicates you don't respect yourself. Stay the course.
IC's are good to have to talk about your own $hit but IMO not qualified to give out marital recon strategies. They are no more qualified than my retired mom.....IMO
