The way I see it, she's going to be in your life for the rest of your life (well, her life, really), no matter what happens between you and W. You might as well try to do what you can to improve your relationship with her. It might have the side benefit of reducing the negative feedback.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17