I have a new issue. Recently, X showed up at the house, with a very short announcement that she was coming. She was bringing a birthday present for my daughter. She did not get out of the car, but her son came inside to play with the dog and visit. I gave him a hug, said i love you and off they go. After they left, I sent her a text saying please give us some space. Last week, she sends me an online invitation to her son's birthday party. I declined the invitation, and left a message saying, "thank you but we have prior obligations and will not be able to make it".
Today, she sent me a text saying she was coming to the house again
Her: we are helping D get her scooter and skateboard home from school. Also S gave her an invitation to his party. Sorry
Me: that's not necessary. We are picking it up later today. Thank for the offer tho
Her: we are already half way there. She asked for our help
At this point my anxiety soars, and I wait for them to arrive. My D and her S come through the door, while X stands out by the street. Her son play with the dog for a bit and then I shuffle him out the door to his waiting mom. I text her afterwards
Me: D appreciated you bringing her scooter home. She says she misses you both, and thank you.
Her: no problem! We miss her too. Hopefully they can see each other more often, when our parenting schedules change. (Her ex husband and I are friendly and he will have S, while I have D. It's a long story, not worth going in to)
Me: D is now crying. I don't appreciate it. You've hurt us enough
Her: you are the one not letting her see us. You won't allow it
Her: from now on I will say, "no your dad doesn't want us to see you"
I did not reply after that, and I'm not sure how to handle it. On one hand I feel like replying, but on the other I feel like maybe I should just let it be. I would love some suggestions....thanks in advance
