I have figured out that in 99% of my sexual sessions, my wife is not there or asleep. If I am in bed with her, I make it a point to NOT try to hide it. I want her to KNOW that I am masturbating.
Honestly, even though masturbation feels great, it sometimes really ticks me off that it is my ONLY way of sexual satisfaction. I don't think that it helsp a SSM at all.
P.S. It seems that no matter where I go or what I do, I am confronted with sexuality. I workout almost everyday to make me more attractive, and yet I have to face all kinds of attractive women in the gym, and many obviously can turn me on. Then I like to bike ride through my town, doing about 10 miles on the trail, and the trail has some of the most beatuiful young women I have ever seen. And if it's not the women, I see couples young AND OLD, that are kissing, cuddling, walking hand-in-hand doen the trail. No matter where I go or what I do , society CONSTANTLY reminds us of our sex drives. Just the other day, I took my youngest son to the park, and on a picinic table was a couple of teens about 16-17 I would say. He was sitting on the top of the table with his feet on the bench with his legs spread. She was kneeling on the bench between his legs, smooching with him the entire time I was their. They were fully clothed, but his arms where around her, and her mouth was on his while her hands were obviously taking care of his package. I am watching this thinking, God, would I love to be him. The entire time, I all could think of was the good ole days when the wife actually had a sexually playfull streak. I would give ANYTHING to have that back. Sex is freakin everywhere, except in my house.
