1. No, I have never slowed down while working on the R. I just make sure that he is nowhere around because it makes him very uncomfortable if he is around when I fly solo.
2. He does not want to know, nor does he care if I take care of my own needs but it gets old. Not the same as intimacy between a couple. I've asked if he would like to participate and the look of terror in his eyes... well, another blow to my ego. From what I've seen here, most guys would like to participate somewhat.
And, I promise you will not go blind, but you might have to shave your palms once in awhile.....
