Yeah it's pretty bad. Maybe you're right, perhaps a letter is the wrong thing to do, I'll keep a hold of it for now and just sit and see what happens. I'm getting some legals drawn up next week in a seperation agreement until the divorce is done. I feel I need to protect myself. My in laws told me it seems like he's dictating her actions towards me, well I already knew that but just confirms it. I'm going to tell my inlaws tomorrow that there is nothing more I can do, and if I were then maybe just try and keep some sort of relationship with their daughter.