I don't think it's necessary, but XW asked for that early on and I agreed. It's an established norm at this point and I feel the consistency of that (if not the interactions with her mother) are positive for her. When she has D on her weekends, I get to talk every night for a few minutes around bedtime. Changing that norm would also mean giving that up.
It doesnt sound like D particularly cares for or needs to talk to XW twice a day. I mean, really what is different from "before bedtime" to "before school"? Why is twice a day a thing?
For me, I dont talk to my kids when my ex has them unless theres a big thing - birthday, first day of school, type thing that I had to miss. What is really needed on an 'every day basis' for a 6 year old. I mean, my parents are out of town for months at a time, and my kids cant get out more than a few sentences before theyre running all over the place. I just dont see how theres THAT much to talk about on a daily basis...let alone every other day.
