M, Try to stop snooping! I did this far too long and all it did was make me mental. I saw texts from my W to her best friends that were so hurtful about me and my family that I almost couldn't take. I found out about all the other guys(yes more than 1) that she was in contact with and all this did was keep me angry. I feel that I couldn't begin to fully detach while still engaging in this behavior, so stop! I know you want to try and wrap your head around all that is going on, it does you no good. Keep working on yourself!
