Well I just realized the symbolism of what happened yesterday:

He dumped his garbage in my garbage bin because where he is staying is not removing garbage anymore. I go through his garbage to see what he has been up to, find evidence that hurts me, and I'm reeling.

I've got to stop looking at his garbage! Even when he dumps it in my bin.

DB August 6, 2017 after 3 month separation
Me: 54
H: 58
Two Teenage sons
Living Separately from H
Married 19 years, together 22 years
Not sure if this is an MLC or WAS