Hi Blu, I was going to post in a similar vein, then read what Coconut posted and felt I couldn't really put it any better...

Given all circumstances, I could understand why you may not want to rebuild things with your H. As time has passed I became more relieved that my XH walked away and didn't come back, initiated and completed the D. I feel in many ways it would be easier for me to have a R with a new person..

But I think they key aspect is in the order of things. I'm 18 months out from D being finalised and that's a very different place to be. And a reasonable place to consider dating from.

I always value your posts and I hope you manage to work through everything in a way the brings you peace and joy in the much longer term.

Xxx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus