Seems to me you dropped all DB principles. You havent properly detached yet. How about you completely detach and then see what happens. It's amazing how a WW has a change of heart when they see you have truly moved on emotionally. You don't need a D to do that.
You W can tell you still are holding to try and save the M. Don't bring up D again and truly let go. You are letting go for yourself not her. Start detaching with love. Stop letring the A affect your decisions. Let her be and go. Start your own journey.
Seems to me you are using D in a vindictive way. Don't D until you are truly done and you will know because, you will be fully detached. You are not. You are still hurting.
You can't force her out the A. But you can start to draw her back to you. Start to let off confidence and positivity and see what happens. Make yourself the best option. The OM is looking like a better option at the moment. How can you become the better option. You becoming the better option will take time. She has to notice on her own. Find ways to make yourself happy. Smile, laugh and enjoy yourself especially around her. Try these things first. Then if you feel like D is the option you will already be in a better place.
When her actions stop affecting your actions you will be fully detached.
I think that might make a huge difference in your Sitch.
This will take time, be patience. Get on your knees, if GOD is what you believe in and ask for GODS patience. Ask him to give you the type of patience he has. Also ask him to give you grace. Those prayers helped me a huge amount. Alot of anxiety stopped after I received GOD's grace.
You can do this. Be strong and firm. Hang in there.
M:37 W:37 T:11 M:10 S17, S13, S10, S4 BD:06/28/17 OM confirmed 07/20/17 Recon the M 10/29/17 Working hard:2gether
Onward and forward
This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.
