How a treehouse can cost you your marriage 2

[Clyde]

So I am trying hard not to get my hopes up, but it does seem as though there is a change in tides happening. There was the "goodnight, cu tomorrow" text (first since S)... I wrote it off as a temp check.

Phone convos (not about the R) are getting more frequent, I'm trying to walk the line here as far as Db'ing goes... I try to be the one who ends them first, In the past week I have not always answered and not text back right away. Again I'm trying to walk that line as she has said in past R talks that she felt like I was checked out at times when I was working crazy hours, so a 180 for me is to make sure I am there to have a reciprocal convo with. My W is not wayward, so while I know I should not be pursing, I don't know that going dim is my best plan of action at this point... any advice?

A few days ago she text "getting off work in 30 min, I'll call when I am off", I did not respond - she never called, I questioned myself if that was the right move on my part?

2 days ago, I was dropping S4 off at her place, she sat in the middle of the couch, knowing I was going to sit also making it to where we were sitting next to one another. We talked small talk at one point she looked at me and I could see a difference (those who have looked at your W in the eyes after BD only to see right through/hollowness, will probably know exactly what I am referring to), it was a passionate stare, I was caught off guard and ended up looking away.

My S4 came up and asked her when she was coming home, her reply was "I don't know". S4 ran off to go play in his room, I told her that both S4 & S7 were really leveling some tough questions my way about the sitch the last few days.

The convo then turned to R talk, we talked for about 2.5 hours, I did a better job validating this time. I did go further than validating though as she opened the door to my feelings on things. We talked a lot about our communication problems, how we could of handled things better. After covering much ground I wanted to leave it on a good note, so I told her I had to get going.

Later that day we had a teacher conference, at the last one she sat away from me, made it clear to the teacher we were S. This time she sat next to me, at one point she said where we live (as if we lived in the same house), she even called me "babe".

Later that night we were talking on the phone, she mentioned D13 needing to come to my house to type a report, I asked when it was due, she said Friday. I suggested that D13 handwrite it and have it all done so that when she is at my house thurs. night, all she will have to do is type it. W said yeah thats a good idea.

The next day she text me, "What r u up to? Was thinking about coming by so that D13 can do her report." I told her I was just working on the house, come on over. She showed up mid afternoon and hung out for close to 5+ hours. It was as if she never moved out. I gave her space, finished my project, we sat and talked on and off through out the evening, at one point I went off by myself and read a magazine, did an art project w/ S7.

She left to run some errands for about 30 mins., she had stopped by the library to grab some books for S7, when they got back she told me she was looking for a book for me called "the 5 love languages for men" but they did not have it. I said that was thoughtful, thanks anyway. In my head I was thinking, wow - why would she suggest that if she was not considering R?

BTW, I went and got that book this a.m. I was thinking, does this give me the green light to recommend/give her books on MR?

We cooked dinner side by side, said grace, and ate as a family. What was different this family meal from others we have had since S, is that we both sat at the heads of the table like we did before S/BD, I had noticed in the past she would avoid sitting at the head of the table.

Before she left she mentioned that they scheduled her to work on T-giving, she put in a request to have it off and is looking to get someone to cover it.

As she was leaving she said she had a nice time, thanks for having them over. No hugs or anything like that.

Today my sister called me, said she saw my W at the elementary school, said the W went out off her way to come up to her and say hi, and that she was super nice.

So fellow DB'ers, any advice on how to proceed. It goes without saying that I need to continue to work on myself, I know she is seeing the changes. I am pretty certain she was/is experiencing a MLC, so she could quite possibly do something tomorrow that will completely undermine this progress. Is this a temp check? In my head I thought that we would verbally decide to re commit, but is it just going to slowly unfold like this? I am adamant that she needs to be the one who brings up moving back in if we even cross that bridge.