Trying to do the right thing...

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Thx Gordie – Boys are doing well. Just had a celebratory Thanksgiving school lunch with the youngest today. Eldest boy is getting by fine, but he's applied for a local STEM school to study coding and was accepted to transfer over at the semester break.

As for D, spoke to her therapist today. She's cutting herself again.

The therapist had tried to reach out to xW and ask her to take D to an outpatient treatment program as well as schedule a psychiatrist to consider meds for her....

Moments later I get a call from xW saying she just spoke to D’s therapist and the therapist may be calling me next, but not to believe anything she says as xW believes, “Her and D are out to get her.” xW was really working herself up and then said she’s sick of D's s**t and is ready to ship her off, “call 5150 and never let her get out” (that’s a psych evaluation call in CA)

Sure enough, the therapist called me back shortly thereafter to say she can no longer work with D's mom if she's going to be hostile and uncooperative.

We discussed even having her refer D to another therapist, but we both agree that xW is probably going to treat the next therapist the same way, if not worse - and forget thinking she's going to get our D to a psychiatrist either. It's been three months and she's not completed that task yet.

I told the therapist I have a plan to go get D and bring her here, enroll her in the same project-based learning school as her brother. It's close to home, and they have an art focussed track as well (which is my D's passion).

The therapist said she’s not ready to say, “yes, do THAT!” However, she did agree that it sounds ideal for D.

I've reached out to her current school, received her transcripts and forwarded those to the principal at the new school for review. Should know by tomorrow what credits will transfer or not.

D has her driver's test next week, so I need her to pass that test and pass that driver's license there. Otherwise, she will have to start the permit process all over again when she gets out here.

Thing is, there are only about 5 weeks left in the semester, so not an ideal time to make a switch. While holding out till then might sound like a better plan, educationally speaking, it's not really her education I'm giving much thought to right now.