Its really hard to learn about the OW just take care of yourself
the pain will ease in time for now just have to go through it and get all the support you can many people understand D and infidelity and can offer support 12 step programs are helpful to get through it
its his crises and Affair partners are just bandaids to cover up their pain they usually can't and don't last, but he has to figure it out that another person can't fix him
hang in there
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow