Fighting my way out of the dark - Part 6

[Holding]

Do you think she ended it because you wanted to discuss in a civil manner and she realized, by you pointing it out, that she wasn't being civil? ... When you said she ended the conversation it made me think that she caught herself.

I think she ended it because she realized the conversation wasn't going her way. Her exact words were "This discussion is over". She LOVES to get the last word. I think she enjoyed it b/c I'm usually the one to end the convos.

Do you think her tone would change if you didn't get sucked in emotionally.

That's a good question. Not getting emotionally sucked in is big time goal for me, and I have a lot of work to do. I think she enjoys sucking me in emotionally and getting a rise out of me. It seems to almost be her goal. When I don't get emotional and instead try to play it like Spock (something I do often), she gets really frustrated.

Our conversations lately go like this: STBXW approaches me with a financial or child-related issue to discuss. It will sometimes start with something like "Look, I know you are angry with me and don't want to talk to me, but we need to discuss X." We make a small amount of progress, but she invariably injects an insult, accusation, or snide remark. This is where she comes up against my boundary, and I end the conversation. Sometimes we might make it all the way through to the resolution of the issue, but she makes sure to throw in a little jab at the end.

Yeah, writing that out makes me realize just how toxic she is.