Yes I think guilt motivates a lot of my decisions lately. I also think her blaming me for her feelings isn't really fair.
I tell her she is solely responsible for her own happiness and choices. Which of course ends in her tearing into me.
Just bringing up the divorce and trying to work out in anything other than she wants ends a fight. Now she is saying she will give me 50 / 50 joint custody. But she is refusing to help pay for the household bills. She gets angry if I don't let her take my car to go to work and out at night.
A good example if the argument from the other morning. She said she needed my car for work. Then she said I won't be home tonight. So I told her she couldn't use my car. So she got angry said we can't talk and for me to leave. So I did. Went to work she called maybe 30 minutes later asking where I was. I told her I was at work. Promptly got told to f*** myself and how she can't depend on me.
So she came home and took the vehicle we use to take the kids to and from school. So I ended up letting my brother in law take my car to get the kids to and from school.
So last night we were both home. After apologizing for being hurtful and saying angry things. She asked how much money I had in the bank. She wanted to get drinks and stuff for everyone in the house. I ended up leaving and driving for 2 hours. My feelings were hurt by things she had said in the car. But she started texting where are you? After I had been gone for a while.
