Originally Posted By: Clyde
Originally Posted By: Gordie
Clyde,

It’s okay to long for those days. You are grieving the loss of your marriage, the woman you married, and the future you thought was yours. Go through all your stages of grief...and when you are ready, you’ll start to accept this death, let go and move on...and when that longing comes back...make space to grieve again.


Thanks Gordie,

6 months into this and I am finally starting to see that it is a process, a process that can not be denied or set aside for another time.

On a lighter note, I was hanging out w/ my S4 in the yard today... I don't quite remember what I was telling him but his response was "I know Dad" (this has been his go to response for the past few weeks) so I replied " you seem to know a lot these days buddy", he went on to tell me "Dad - I know everything" I chuckled and told him, "thats good buddy, I remember back when I knew everything... life was much easier", in my head I was thinking - just wait till you get married buddy!


Clyde,

That’s awesome. Stay close to the little ones. They perceive a lot but don’t have the tools and words to process them. Spend a lot of time with them and physically engage them—hugs, tickles, piggy backs—it expresses a father’s love that they need right now.


Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving