H.....I don't know if better is the word but maybe different that could defuse the situation. You did indicate there was some mis-communication on your part. Did you own up to that with her? I myself had a hard time admitting my errors/feelings to my W and it drove her crazy.
Just a few examples below
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STBXW: Then why, this is the second time it's happened.
H. I don't remember the first time it happened but I would love to sit down and discuss so we are on the same page moving forward.
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STBXW: I'm sorry but eventually you need to discuss co-parenting with me, regardless how much you hate me.
Me: That last statement is exactly why these discussions are so difficult.
Maybe something like. I agree, we do need to sit down and discuss co-parenting. I want us to be on the same page for our children.
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STBXW: I'm being honest. I know you hate me, I see it in your eyes and in your actions. I have heard. I know more than you think I know.
H...I don't hate you but I think this is something that we need to sit down and discuss in person vs over a text. I think it would be productive for us so we can move forward in a more positive manner. Would you be willing?
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STBXW: We need to find common ground b/c he was already crying this morning about the D.
Me: Our common ground is that we'll continue to be parents to our kids.
H...I agree, I want to be on common ground as well. I would like to sit down and discuss how we can move forward in the best interest of our kids.
I am certainly no expert and I am not saying it's easy. I also am not trying to be critical so please don't take it that way. I also don't think your responses where wrong but could they have been re-worded in a way to defuse the sitch or at minimum to maybe open the door for a sit down conversation to help you guys move forward. Truthfully maybe you guys are too far down the path and sep is the best as ACC and Sandi have suggested.
