Fighting my way out of the dark - Part 6

[Holding]

Holding I think you're intellectually done but not emotionally done if that makes sense.

You *want* to be done, but your feelings haven't caught up. Rationally you know you're better off without her.

Yes, that makes perfect sense. Thanks. Is it just a waiting game with the feelings? Can I just kick my feelings' @ss?

Getting into a separate living situation is going to help you a lot, it's going to be good for your self esteem. The sooner that can happen the better.

I can't wait! But it looks like it won't happen until D is final.

Regarding her retirement account balance, the best advice I can give you is to regard your divorce from the perspective of being fair, but not vindictive or punishing. If you can leave something on the table that you *could* have gotten if you'd really fought for it, it will buy you a ton of goodwill in your ongoing co-parenting arrangement.

I have no intention of being vindictive. I just want what's fair. STBXW has proposed giving me 0% of her retirement accounts.

Stay strong my friend!

Thanks!

(Some days I say to myself, "this is gonna be a slow day on the DB boards for me". Those days usually end up being the busiest.)