Depressed H- save my marriage

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I feel like he is getting his space. There are weeks that we don't see each other for a few days because he comes home from his activity after I go to bed. I have been going out on the weekends. We probably don't spend more than 10 hours together in the house awake and we aren't really interacting.

I need to be better about not trying to interact with him. I still try to make small-talk sometimes. We never talk about anything of substance. I read other posts about all the fighting about the relationship/money/etc. and we haven't talked about anything in WEEKS.

The problem is when I saw my Mother-In-Law 3 weeks ago her advice was to tell him I love him sometimes and still show him love. (He is depressed)

I am not ready to let the possibility of a future with him go. However, I have decided that I am not sure I would want him back if he doesn't improve himself. I also don't want our old relationship back.

I am attending a co-dependency group at my church so I am hopeful that will help me in future relationships.