I have read some of your posts and your story is very similar to mine although we are a little older and have been together longer. My W is doing the same thing behavior wise with some days reaching out to me and others pulling away and being cold. It has been very hard for me to detach from her but the more I do the better and more in control I feel. I also see her reaching out more now that I have pulled away. I am still in a very difficult situation as the OM is still involved but the longer I go on with the 180/LRT the better I feel about myself. It's nice to know there are other men who understand what you are going through.
