No 2x4s from me. I think you handled that interaction very well. Good work!

I do think you are asking the right questions. What do you want at this stage? Reconciliation? Divorce? More time in limbo?

Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving