As to what I have done to remedy those. I started reading Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. That way when she would speak I could understand where she was coming from. Unfortunately that seem to make things worse.
I have started seeing an hypno-therapist about the drinking. I used to drink to not deal with my emotional problems and I would check out. I don't do that anymore. So now I am an emotional wreck.
On the money thing I let her start making the decisions about how the money was spent and paying the bills. It was still my money but I let her actually pay the bills.
The kids thing we now have a schedule for our weekends. We do chores in the morning, activity then lunch and then another family activity while she is at work. Still get burned out and yell at them sometimes but working on it.
Not caring about what she wants we are at an impasse. I would give her anything in the world but the divorce. I don't mind changing just I can't be the only one. I realize that while I made my mistakes so does she.
Not trusting her / friends has a lot to do with the 3 affairs. I couldn't cope with the affairs and past issues so I drank to deal with it. Plus I felt that I couldn't trust her not to do it again. Now if she wants to leave I don't question her about it beyond normal questions. Such as what time where are you going and when will you be home.
