So sorry to hear about your unhappy situation. More and more we are learning how many women actually bully their H. The use their moods and fits of anger to control the H. He wants peace, so he tries to go along with as much as he can.
If you have told her you don't want a divorce, or if you are not cooperating in getting one.......then she is going to make your life miserable. That's what a W does to a H she controls. Look at the name of your thread and the content of your first post. You did not ask for help to save your M. You asked how to stop the fighting. That tells me it must be at a level that is beating you down mentally and emotionally........which will affect you physically. The sad fact is that's what it's designed to do.
May I ask if this anger she is displaying something new, or has she always had it......but the intensity has increased lately? Was it after she let you know she wants a D?
You mentioned boundaries. Can you tell us more about what those boundaries are and how you enforce them if she does not honor them?
If you learn that she is involved with another man, is that a deal breaker?
The more marital history you can share with us, the more we will see the story. Please post often. The more you post, the more activity you'll have on your thread.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
