You're right about the two approaches. Maybe she needs closure. Maybe she just needs to unload. I just remembered an interesting exchange on the phone.
After the 'do you want talk about something' and her pushing me on it and me saying that there are things I would want to talk about, I asked her why does she want to talk about 'us'. She said because it's important for you. So, I said, is it important for you? She said, it is important for her because it was important for me. So, I left it at that.
Yes, I will be cool calm and collected. I think I am going to talk about my feelings during BD and some of the stuff afterwards. And then I am going to leave it open to see what she wants to say and talk about.
I am definitely not going to give her the impression that I want to chase her or I will take her back as is. She wants the MR, then she'll have to put the work in. And I will tell her what that is if she asks. I am not going to volunteer information and just ramble. This has to be controlled and calm.
I think that I got this and I have some time to just emotionally and mentally prep for it.
