Let's pretend for 5 seconds there was never OM and she just decided to leave, but came back and is now "working on the M"
How invested do you think she is about making this marriage better with YOU?
I think you cloud yourself with OM so much that it's hard to look at your M and selves. Let's pretend like he doesn't exist for a minute and never did. How would you rate your M at this time?